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Be Responsible

PATIENTS AND THEIR FAMILIES : BE RESPONSIBLE.                                                                                              


A person must take responsibility for himself, his life and his health. He must never place that responsibility in others’ hands. Even if they help him, the responsibility remains his alone.

No one will live your life for you. Regardless of the circumstances or the situation in which you find yourself, the responsibility remains yours.

Responsibility means striving toward the most effective, beneficial solution. It means consistently caring, down to the smallest detail. It means not blindly relying on “experts”. It means conducting oneself according to a core desire to minimize the problem as much as possible, using all means available. Sometimes responsibility necessitates going to war, challenging authority, and making brave decisions.

If a person has mistakenly deposited responsibility for himself in others’ hands, he must never leave it there. Placing your destiny in the hands of professionals and stepping out of the picture amounts to an abdication of responsibility. Blaming others in no way removes the responsibility from your shoulders.

When people grasp onto excuses and justification that they claim free them from all responsibility to improve their lives, they’re only punishing themselves. They may be trying to prove something or take revenge against someone – but ultimately, they’re the ones who pay the price. They suffer the consequences. A person who doesn’t live his life to the fullest can blame no one but himself.

Sometimes a person must rouse himself and reclaim responsibility that he forgot to take, due to some formative event in his past. Sometimes what’s demanded of him is that he stop blaming his father or mother, his teacher or neighbor, his big brother or little sister, for all the troubles in his life.

Taking responsibility is all the more relevant regarding medical issues. No matter how dedicated and professional your doctors may be, relate to them with basic trust and respect – but retain responsibility. Examine, compare, inquire, follow up, and strive to receive all the information that will enable you and only you to make decisions about your life and your health.



Excerpted from the book “as long as I Live” the life story of Aharon Margolit; published by Feldheim